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> wHo's to bLame?
Author: aLmich
As I was packing my things earlier in preparation for my Coron Trip tomorrow, my sister in law arrived. I couldn’t describe her face. I asked her what happened but she can’t talk and was already tearful. I decided not to push for it first and let her settle. After a while, I asked here again the same question. “Kuya nalaman nila na nanganak na ako nung nagpamedical ako, di na ako pinagpatuloy sa work ko, kasi naman ako eh” and then she cried with full of disappointment, anger and pity. I tried to calm her and told her that it’s just okay, there’ll be more opportunities for her. She had a miscarriage early this year. She’s having a hard time getting a job because she’s undergraduate and too young. One thing also is that she just came from the province and so lacks self esteem or confidence. I really felt bad because my brother [her husband who is in the province] didn’t show support and asked her to go back home instead. I was already tearful when my brother called, I took the phone and scolded him with no end. Long story short, I took charge.
On my way to work, I started contemplating.
Sometimes when we try really hard to accomplish something or to make something work, and it doesn’t in the end, we put the blame on ourselves when we shouldn’t.
One of the hard parts of life is the fact that we cannot predict the future. Sure, it would be nice to know that we end up happy and successful, but there is no looking glass that can show us this.
So what do we do? We try. We have goals and dreams and other completely random things that we want to accomplish. And sometimes these things work out the way that we plan, but sometimes they don’t. Sometimes we fail, and other times we make really big mistakes.
But guess what? You’re mortal. Just like you can’t see into the future, you can’t stop yourself from having a few mishaps every now and then.
When people make mistakes or when something doesn’t turn out like they’ve been hoping, it’s easy to wonder, “What did I do wrong?” Now, if you know, for certain, that you’re the one to blame, that’s acceptable. But if things pan out in a way that you really couldn’t control, don’t jump to blaming yourself because more than likely, it’s not your fault. When you have genuinely tried to achieve some sort of goal, whatever it may be, and it doesn’t work out for a reason that is beyond your control, you shouldn’t automatically assume that you’ve done something wrong. Be glad that you tried, that you put yourself out there, or even that you made the effort to do something that’s either difficult or out of the norm for you.
People put the blame on themselves when things go sour too often. If things haven’t gone your way recently, for whatever reason, don’t try and hurt yourself more by blaming yourself. Learn from your experiences, and never stop trying. Because, although I may not be psychic, I can predict that there are going to be many, many triumphs in your life.
To my sister in law, don’t worry too much. You’re a part of the family now. You don’t actually have to work. Just like what we told you, we can send you to school but since you decided to be “mature and responsible”- as you put it, be brave and always ask His guidance. We love you!
