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> Love Your Faulty Partner
Author: aLmich
I joined Abhi earlier at Megamall as she went shopping for decorations and Krispy Kreme doughnuts. Her new account will be launched today so she thought of some things to energized the agents.
With all the ballons, doughnuts and my bags [for my Galera vacation] and her with all some other stuffs, we still managed to talk about having crushes and relationships.
I told her that I just saw my crush along my way earlier and that it feels so good to have those moments. She then quipped- “ako wala nang crush” with the sad face act. I laughed and told her that she already have Bochog [her boyfriend], what more can you ask for?
It seems like so many people are breaking up these days over the smallest things that honestly don’t even matter. People are taking relationships for granted, and they’re branching out and getting in fights over things such as Susie calling or texting too much or Bobby not showing that he cares as much as he should.
People need to remember that they’re lucky enough to actually be in a relationship. At the end of the day, they have someone who is there for them and who believes in them, and this is something that so many single people would love to have. It’s sad that so many couples are taking it for granted.
You have to remember that “you don’t realize what you’ve got until it’s gone.” If you fight with your girlfriend or boyfriend over simple things that are stupid and don’t even matter, talk to them about it, tell them how much you care about them, and try to find a common ground.
In my field of work, we’re used to the “sandwich approach”. It’s about keeping the negativities or bad aspects of the program in between good features, benefits and advantages.
People should break up because He was cheating on She, or because He keeps lying to Him. Not over stupid little things.
So for all of you folks out there who have a significant other, tell them how much you appreciate them being a part of your life today. And try not to fight over something stupid.
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> Galera '09 Na!
Author: aLmich
If you have a monogamous relationship and your partner has had an affair, both of you will need to spend a fair amount of time dealing with the aftermath. If your partner has had an affair, it's not a solution to restrict or be critical of your partner's friendships or independent activities. It will only anger and upset both of you.
The real issue is that you do not trust her/him anymore. You'll need to find ways -- that work for both of you -- to help rebuild trust again. Sometimes an affair will trigger feelings from past experiences unconnected to your partner, and it all gets mixed up together. The one who didn't have the affair may need additional support that a partner may not be able to provide. Again, counseling can help here.
Other than monitoring or restricting your partner's activities, maybe there's something else that could help you feel more comfortable with your partner seeing friends. For example, after an affair some couples agree that they will not see the person they had the affair with for awhile, or in the case of a one night stand that they will not go to the bar where they met. Be creative negotiating back and forth what works for both of you, and be clear about how long this arrangement will last.
While it's important to trust your intuition when you suspect that your partner is having or had an affair, sometimes what we think is intuition is really fear or insecurity. If you truly believe that you can't trust your partner, and you're not satisfied with your partner's responses to your questions, you may want to reconsider your committment.
> Mama, Sukli Ko?
Author: aLmich
I always find it awkward to ask for the small amount of change [read: 50 centavos-5 pesos] in jeepneys or buses. If it’s been 20 minutes since I handed the
driver the fare. There something in me that says that I should let the driver “keep the change”. However, is the driver worth it?
Dishonest drivers are all around the metro. One of the most common would be the kunwari-di-alam-ang-lugar-iikot-ng-iikot-para-dagdag-metro taxi drivers. If they sense that you don’t know much about the place you’re heading to, then they’ll take shorcuts and alternate routes which, aside from additional pay, takes time. I’ve been there when I was too scared a cat to reprimand a driver to take a certain route which I’m more familiar with. Under normal traffic condition, the normal P150 ride from this place to that would now amount to P180 or more.
Overpricing FX/jeepney drivers would be another common headache. Just like yesterday, I rode the FX at St. Francis Square to Pureza Sta. Mesa and that should cost P25, flat. I gave the driver a 50 peso bill and he gave me 20 saying he’ll give the 5 later. Since I am on a total cost cutting, I needed the change. I was expecting that he would give me the P5 before we I had to unload his vehicle but, sadly, he didn’t. I just had to let it go since I was really tired to argue any longer. It wasn’t the first time I experienced that, though.
In jeepneys, they would often not give the change until you asked it. They would not give you the student discount until you tell them you’re a student. Our change should be given right away; we don’t have to ask for it. Sometimes, it happens that they would not give your change still after so many times you’ve asked for it and until by the time you unload, you’ve already forgotten about it.
Did you know that it’s your right not to pay drivers if you weren’t able to sit comfortably in public transportation? Yet, drivers would try and squeeze your fat ass to a space as big as your pointing finger to earn more. One fourth of your ass enjoys the ride but you pay the normal fare.
Although, we can’t blame our drivers for wanting more. With the surmounting amount of diesel in the market, it can’t be possible that what they earn in a day is enough for their family. However, it doesn’t follow that the commuters have to suffer for the consequences of poor oil regulation in our country. We too want the best for them because in not matter what way we look at it, drivers and commuters are interdependent. I think at the end of the day, it’s a question of where your loyalty lies—to your family or to your passengers. You can have it both ways by the way.
> On Phones
Author: aLmich
My phone got busted before we went to Palawan last month. I’m the type who usually fiddles on my cellphone although I’ve seen and memorized everything that’s in there. I don’t know why, I just feel the need to do it every once in a while. Now that I’m just using my sister’s spare phone and my contacts were all gone, it’s just surprising how I feel so free and easy.
When I was growing up, few of my friends had walkie talkie and mobiles were yet to be developed. Nowadays, everybody seems to have at least one phone in some form or another and we all seem to be expected to be available at any given time.
I’ve no idea how many times my mobile’s gone off while I’m visiting friends, having dinner in a pub, or standing in a supermarket checkout queue. My house phone has rung while I’m up to my elbows in washing, have my hands full of dough, or am in the middle of eating dinner. Yet time after time the caller has refused to respect that I didn’t want to or couldn’t talk right then. “Just let me tell you about…” seems to be the standard response to my “I can’t talk right now”.
I find it rude when my guests spend 10-15 minutes or more on the phone while I’m sat there like a dumb banana twiddling my thumbs and hearing half of their conversation. In fact I once had I guest spent more than an hour on his mobile, talking to his other half who he’d be seeing the next day anyway!
When I’m socializing, I concentrate on those I’m socializing with, not those who are making unnecessary demands on my time and I expect other reasonably sensible people to do the same.
Do we really believe we’re so important that we have to take every call? Do others really have a right to demand our time in any situation?
Phones obviously have a place in our modern society. I have no question about that.
It’s years now since I’ve been dependant on answering the phone. If it isn’t suitable to talk - and that could be just because I don’t feel like talking - I don’t answer it. I figured that if it’s important they’ll either leave a message or text me; if they don’t then they couldn’t have wanted to get hold of me that badly. Nowadays, being less dependant on my phone helps keep my life simple. I’m not stressed by a ringing phone that I’m unable to answer in the way some people are.
Some say I’m being ignorant and selfish by ignoring a ringing telephone. I know some felt bad because I have not been responding but I’ll do that if I feel the need to do so or if I think it’s really important. For now, I’ll just be like these. I’m still waiting for my new phone. I don’t know if I’ll go back to what I used to after that. We’ll see.
