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Author: aLmich
How do you label someone who hates co-existing with others? who tends to be the object of hatred of most of his co-workers? who from one company to another has gathered many enemies? who belittle his boss’ capability and almost everybody in the workplace? who wears his “I am superME” engraved tiara, who would usually explain himself as a misunderstood individual and yet all those people say the same thing to him? comment the same thing? who takes pride making “pahaging” and calls everybody “tanga”, saying that this peson is “so” and I am “so”? who stabs you from behind? who couldn’t even realize that if majority of the people say the same thing about him, it’s maybe about time to think things over? to accept the fact that maybe he’s really got a BIG problem?
DIFFICULT PERSON
The workplace is an environment that nearly each and every person will have to get used to in their lifetime. Almost any career or job you can think of will require you to be around co-workers, which is just fine, until you find that one co-worker that is a real pain to deal with on a day-to-day basis.
We all know this scenario first hand. You find a good job, decent pay, and you get comfortable with your work environment, schedule, and the overall work you do. It may not be a “Dream” job, but it is better than working in a sweatshop.
Then, seemingly out of nowhere, that “one” co-worker comes around and, out of nowhere, they rain on your parade, and at times, push you to your limits. These are the people that lack essential social and interpersonal skills in their lives, and they bring this issue to the workplace, thus ruining the comfort and pride you once had in your work.
A difficult person is not the same as an angry person, although a difficult person can be, and often is, angry. A difficult person is not just one who engages in debate or stands up for what he or she believes. A difficult person is characterized by being unreasonable. To be fair and to avoid casting labels on people, all people can be difficult at times. But if everybody looks at you that way? Man, you are really a difficult one.
For some people, being difficult appears to be in their “nature”. Some people actually get joy and satisfaction from arguing, criticizing, condemning and complaining. Some people are conditioned to be that way due to a lifetime of negative experiences; being difficult is their defense. Others just want to be heard; they want a sympathetic ear and someone who will give them the attention they desire. Others may also have a sad life. Alone. Miserable. These people tend to project a strong character but is really an insecure and pitiful being inside. They need help, attention and understanding. No excuse, however, can justify the unyielding and irrational behavior of a difficult person.
Ideally, avoiding difficult people is better than dealing with them. However, when mere avoidance is not possible or practical, it’s about time to DEAL with them.
